About The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair
I first discovered The Adult Chair® in 2017 through a meditation my husband sent to me about connecting to my highest self. I became a weekly podcast listener and truly felt that this model had something so effective for adult emotional well being. The simple psychology with grounded spirituality resonated with me and my husband.
Together, we followed some of the advice about healthy relationships to improve our marriage and began introducing the concepts of “story busting” and living in “fact and truth” as a family. The Adult Chair model has allowed me to story bust the assumptions that our human minds naturally cling to and get into a state of fact and truth. This model has allowed my husband and I to have better communication, because we can now share what we are really thinking and feeling, leading to a more healthy relationship. Our children have noticed this change in us and are starting to do the same! This model doesn’t eliminate stress or all pain, but it does help ease suffering, which is optional in life!
This model provides something that no religion, no education system, and no parents teach you in a simple manner. I became an Adult Chair® Coach because I believe more human beings need these tools to effectively manage the stressors of life and to learn to thrive.
The Adult Chair Model
The Adult Chair is a manual for your life. It’s a tool that helps you feel empowered, confident, and equipped with a clear roadmap to your healthiest, most authentic self. Through The Adult Chair, you will understand how your life experiences have shaped you, give a voice to the different parts of who you are, gain greater self-awareness, and respond to life in a healthy way.
The Child Chair
Your inner child forms between ages zero and seven, and it is the foundation of your true feelings and needs. The inner child is deeply vulnerable, which makes it the source of deep, connected relationships. It is also where early wounding can occur, which shapes our view of the world as we grow up. When seated in the Child Chair, we find creativity, passion, spontaneity, trust, and intimacy.
The Adolescent Chair
In adolescence, you begin to develop your own identity and realize that you are separate and unique from the world around you. As the ego forms, so does the desire to protect yourself, whether the daggers are real or imagined. When seated in the Adolescent Chair, we become perfectionist, judgmental, and controlling, and we develop a mask to hide our authentic selves from a world that seems cold and rejecting. Most of us live from this place until we awake and decide we are ready to change.
The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair represents your highest self: living in the present moment, dealing with facts and truth over stories and assumptions, and being able to set boundaries from a place of patience and compassion. While seated in the Adult Chair, we can deeply connect with our inner child’s needs and feelings and objectively observe our adolescent’s behaviors. It is here, and only here, that we can become aware of—and overcome—the emotional triggers and negative patterns that hold us back.